Who are your friends?

One of Vladimir Lenin quotes states, “Show me who your friends are and I will show you what you are”.  As we get older our circle of friends starts to decrease. This is not to isolate ourselves from the world but because we have passed through heartbreaks and disloyal from the ones we’ve thought were our friends.

Understanding the type of people you hang around with can determine how fast it will take you to reach where you want to go in life. It is good to surround yourself with people but it is also important to know what type of person they are.

A life without friends means death without company. As the year goes on, we begin to observe the people who are for us, their effects and time in our lives. There are three types of people you will meet in your lifetime. Confidants, Constituents, and Comrades. It is very important to know the difference between these three, so that you will not be disappointed if things go wrong.

Confidants

These types of people are for you. Their time, energy and effort are dedicated to you. They are the people who will be there for you no matter the situation, whether good or bad, they will always be by your side. These are the people you can be yourself with. They are the people you can be open and safe with. Confidants are people who are fully committed to you; they are not looking for anything, but you. They live and breathe off their relationship with you. They will have your back in anything. Having at least two or three of these type of people in your life can change your life forever.

Constituents

Constituents are people who are not for you; they are only there for your purpose and for what you are good at. They are there for your talent and to feed off you. They take you as a channel to reach their own goals. Constituents look like confidants, they act the same but the difference is that if things go wrong, a confidant will stay by your side at all times but a constituents will leave you in a heartbeat and move on to the next person who will get them closer to where they are going. This is why people are heartbroken when the person they thought was their best friend is disloyal to them or turns against them. It’s not their fault; you just misunderstood them for a confidant.

Comrades:

Now, these people are not for you at all, they are not for your purpose or your goals, but they are for what you are against. They can fight with you if you’re having a quarrel with someone, but that doesn’t mean they are fighting because they love you. They are only fighting because they don’t like the person you are fighting. For example, if you are querying with someone over a particular issue and someone you barely even talk to shows up and starts fighting that same person. That person is a comrade. They are not fighting for you or for what the other person did to you but they are fighting the person because they don’t like them. Be careful not to take a comrade as a confidant or a constituent.

You have to surround yourself with people who are for your purpose, people who are there when you need them, and people who pay attention to you! Build your circle wisely. Don’t surround yourself with people who will not push you to work on yourself and your goals. Build your circle around people who are for you, people who you can be confident with and who arwill help you reach where you want to reach in life.

In your lifetime you will meet confidants, constituents, and comrades but you have to know who is who and why they are there! You have to be willing to have all these three types of people in your life and be able to work with people who come and go. 

Choose your circle of friends wisely, they can either limit you or make you strong. 

Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.

                                                                                ~ Proverbs 13:20