Another Stage Upwards

Last Friday I watched my little brother as he began his "Secondary school life" in first year. It's indeed a big step in anyone's life, marking a new stage that'll prepare you for the big wild world. After getting ready, with his new uniform looking all brand new and cute as ever, I saw in the moment of taking that  "first day of secondary school" picture, another stage of new beginning emerging in our family, someone's life is in the process of been fulfilled. It was a beautiful feeling to say the least. Another one from the family starting into secondary school. I can vividly recall just few years ago,  when I started secondary school, I was quite than a mouse for almost 5 months until I started loosening up and making friends. No am not saying it's going to take that long for your child to blend in! I was naturally quiet and shy and bringing me to a whole new environment where non of my primary school friends were, added to it, but nevertheless, I can't seems to hold my mouth shot when with a group of friends or around the house. With the generation booming with excitement they're sure to be blending in in no time.  

I had also witness my younger sister around 3 years ago, start her fist day in the secondary world, coming home with mountainous stories and endless description of the new people she met and the teachers in which were to assist her in her journey in the school. Now with only two years left before leaving for college we could say, that life waits for no one!

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning. But anyone can start today and make a new ending. Preparing my ears for the upcoming stories and tales his going to be bringing home over the next few weeks is exciting me very much. Gradually as day goes on, year by year we'll watch him grow into a man and soon he'll be making a big decision of what career choice he ought to choose for  his happiness in life, and am happy to say we'll be backing him all the way. 

So In today's post I am urging ye all, mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, guardians, to be part of the growth of your loved ones, especially the young ones. Try attaching to them emotionally, try to teach them the right way even though it might raise up endless arguments,  they'll understand in the end. Let them be able to depend on you and trust in you. As they grow, be part of their endeavours in life, show love and kindness towards them no matter how annoying they simply are or what the situation may be. 

Build a strong relationship with them and be affectionate towards their needs. Teach them that they must show kindness every single day, no matter what the situation may be. Feed and train them to be a good person, they are still in your care and you see them as the apple of your eye, so take good care of them no matter what the situation may be. You are still their trainer, so train them good, that in the future you'll have all means to be happy, and to be grateful for a wonderful loving person that brought them up to be who they are today. "Train up the child in the way it should go and when he his old he will not depart from it". (Proverbs 22:6)

Always let them know that if today is not good, tomorrow will be brighter. In any situation they find themselves in they shouldn't give up hope or give up on life. Its so hard to believe today, that some children have committed suicide because of depression, been bullied or finding themselves in situations they thought could never be solved and  feeling that they couldn't confide in anyone or that life can never get better and they fail to realize that they are giving the power to the situations. Make your child be aware that no matter what anyone do to them or say to them they can never EVER have power over them. Make them aware that they are always in control. They have power over what they want to allow to impact them and bring them down, they are always in control. Likewise they have power over whatever they want to be in life and where they want to stand in this world!

It is by all means that many children, especially the one starting into first year, will tend to want to keep to themselves and you might be noticing that the child that used to come home telling you every single thing that they did, and you, having to pretend that you are listening, will no lonely have the need to tell you everything. If this is your case, DO NOT WORRY, it just means your child is "growing up". At the same time, do try and build a good relationship with them, everyone knows a way around their kids. The simple effort that you put can make a difference, such as insisting to go on that same old walk that you used to, or have a one on one time with them just to know what's on their mind. and for most children you'll be surprised how buying them ice-cream can get them talking (Worked very well with me)!. Pay a close attention to their behaviour and their moods around the house. Their emotions can be reflected by their attitude around the house and they may tend to take it out on the people around them, which we all know can be chaotic. If your child is still the type to come home and spill all her/his mind and everything that's bothering them, then opening up and showing patience, engaging and listening  ( actually listen fully! ) will certainly help them confide in you in tough situations.

And as a child myself (well that's what my mother refereed me as when I can't go somewhere she feels is dangerous), you have to give them space. They're growing up physically and emotionally so you've got to give them space of their own. As hard as it may sounds, because of your inseparable bond when they were in primary school, you've got to let them have their own space. Allow them to be aware that its okay to make mistake of their own and let them know that they must learn from it in order not to fall into the same mistake again. 

So I thought I ought to encourage parents, guardians, brothers, sisters, relatives etc, that as  the young ones start another stage in their life, watching them grown from infant to this age, that, life's all about reaching out and grabbing the best fruit on the branch, no matter how hard it may be to reach it, but to keep reaching. 

Life is beautiful. So full of hope, failures, disappointment, love, hate, war and happiness. Life is so dearly beautiful. We all experience Life in different ways, and we view it through our own perspective and make our own decisions on how to go about doing things. We create our own world through the glass of our eyes, through the bowl of our mouths, and through the hands of our flesh. We create life through the desires of our hearts. Everything  about life is beautiful. It's sorrows, heartbreaks, shame, pain, frustrations, happiness, failures, joy etc. It's all so beautiful. Its beautiful in the sense that through all of it we grow, as an individual we grow wiser, stronger and braver, we grow in all areas we ourselves thought we could never. No one can ever say that they are the same person that they were 3 years ago. You might still be attached to the same routine you scheduled for yourself, still be attached to material things  such as your countless shoes, cars etc, or still be in deep romance with the love of your life, but you are not the same person you were 3 years ago. Something have happened that made you a different person, am not talking by physical appearance alone but inwardly, something has changed you. It had either grew you or help you become a better person. 

Because you have experience life and are still experiencing life I besiege ye to teach your kids both young and old, especially the ones starting off into another stage in their life, that life is beautiful, and that no matter what it throws at them, they've got to give it all they've got until they win. 

Life can be won with a solid smile at the end of every battle  if you only see it through the mirrors hiding in your eyes reflecting mainly the bad side of life. 

Always teach your kids that life it beautiful, AND TO ALWAYS BE AN ORIGINAL OF THEMSELVES, because an original is always worth more than a copy, to always be themselves and stand for what ever they believe in even when the whole world is against them. They should make the most of their youth, be happy, laugh uncontrollable, smile constantly, make new memories,  make lifetime friendships and enjoy the freedom of been young. You can never regain your youth back, so make the most of  it wisely!

Inspirational Quote

Every New Beginning Comes From Some Other Beginning's End.

*Secondary school- Same thing as High-school